The first mistakes
Before I become a mom I dreamed that I will live with my kids with a lot of joy and happiness but real life has another opinion, I become more stressed, restricted, and depressed. I know that raising a child is a huge responsibility and every single detail will affect his personality.
I thought that reading more parenting books and articles will teach me for my journey but I forget something important, this is me I care about my attitude but I don’t care about my mental health.
Sometimes reading in parenting makes me more nervous because I feel failed and I can’t apply what I read but I motivate myself by
“every day is a new chance to begin it is never too late and start with small steps and you will reach your goals “
I want to share some mistakes so you can avoid
- I didn’t take my ” me time” correctly in front of my first kid I was scrolling down social media aimlessly.
- I didn’t know the features of every age stage so some behaviors I didn’t understand, but I fix this mistake with my second son by reading about it.
- I was getting nervous rapidly when I was surrounded by people I was anxious about their opinions and their judgment on my parenting style so I get in trouble with my kids and people too, so put your kid feelings priority and teach him to respect others too
- I wish I could increase the time of reading with my kid when he was 2 years but it is never too late I increase it and buy new books and we set time before going to bed for reading.
- I think that when I say “no” he will obey but it isn’t so I remove anything that makes me yell at him such as electronic devices, antiques and when I visit someone I say please remove your breakable items.
- I wish that my concentration is lead me to positive actions instead of negative I feel regret for the time I wasted I wish I did some workout regularly and played music and dance so you have a chance to do it now spread some joy in your home and your kids and whatever you feel you will be fine when you see your kids smile and happy.
- I didn’t separate kids at bedtime they love and feel comfortable when I sleep with them and when I decide to separate them I failed so my advice is to try to separate them when they were young maybe at 2 years or three
- I don’t like comparing between kids of families but sometimes I did it and feel I have inner anger so if you do this please stop and see your life with colorful glasses and working on sides you want to upgrade
- Talk to your baby every day since he was born I started talking after 6 months and my second baby I started from his first day and introduce his family to him and I see that he gained a lot of vocabulary and I feel satisfaction about his talking development so treat him like 5 or 6 years old and tell him what you did and what you will do.
- Some days I forget to put healthy snacks in front of my kids so when I put them again he refused it and keep trying to put types he refuses don’t give up, healthy snacks ( peeled cucumbers, peels apples, tomatoes, bananas, strawberries, ) keep in mind cut it into small pieces to avoid choking hazards
- After 3 years buy washable colors and playing dough and give them to your kid under your observation
These are some mistakes I remember and I wish it will help you, times we know the right but we forget or feel lazy and need someone to point out it then we start doing it.
