Fight or flight
Fight or flight with kids
When our brain incur a difficult situation our consciousness choose one of these states (fight , flight , freeze )
When the parents feel so nervous ,fear of losing control and the kids can’t stop whining .. There are two solution :
First : fight with kids is lose -lose situation and lead to more high voice , back talk and tantrums and all of us need more time to calm down
Second :flight or run away
Run away from your kids but let then know first
You will say “i am feeling so frustrated and need time to be alone to feel better and act nicely”
And leave them at the safest place in your house
The first 3 or 4 times they will knock the door and call you , you can answer I’ll coming within 5 minutes but if kids enter in tantrums take a deep breath and go and help him to calm down
